Eating Ice Cream With My Grandmother

Corey and I were engaged shortly after my grandmother, Ruth Bell Graham, passed away, and we were married six months later.  It is hard to believe that has almost been four years.

Where does the time go?

It was right after we were married, I realized how much I wish she was still just a drive away. Oh, how I miss her twinkling eyes, her voice, her wit, her passion, her contagious joy, and but more than anything else, I missed her wisdom.

I want to sit around her large round kitchen table and sip on a cup of coffee and just talk to her.  Well, at her table it would be more like Häagen-Dazs ice cream with hot fudge on top.

I want to ask her the questions I was too young to ask when I had the chance. The questions I didn’t even know to ask.  I want to ask her about the things that matter.  I want to be able to learn from her.

I want to ask her about being a godly wife.

“God called you not to make your husband good,
but to make him happy.”

She was married for over sixty years; I want to ask her about the struggles of a Christian marriage.

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

And I would expect a little sense of humor in her answers.

“No, I’ve never thought of divorce in all these 35 years of marriage,
but I did think of murder a few times.”

Even though I am not a mom yet, I want to ask her about raising children.

“As a mother, my job is to take care of what is possible
and trust God with the impossible.”

I believe it is so important to surround ourselves with other people’s godly wisdom. We must learn from the ones who the Lord has already taught, and the Bible says we must imitate their faith.

“Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.” –Hebrews 12:7-8

What person would you like to sit and eat Häagen-Dazs with?

*Quotes from Ruth Bell Graham

Posted: October 7, 2011